tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785497047688483971.post4917903635332764582..comments2010-01-15T16:53:19.754+13:00Comments on The Diary of an Alcoholic's Partner: Just for TodayHopefulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03636910236158619329noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785497047688483971.post-21772321747874509352009-07-21T15:44:37.504+12:002009-07-21T15:44:37.504+12:00Thanks Erica for your comment and bravery for post...Thanks Erica for your comment and bravery for posting on a blog from an alcoholic's partner! I am thankful to have your imput and your perspective. It must be hard for you, and like me - sounds like you are at the beginning of a journey. Whether alcoholics or partners/friends/family of an alcoholic - I hope that we can take the journey together and support one another in this little virtual community. And I am encouraged by your words, thank you - and the words of others that have posted here.Hopefulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03636910236158619329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785497047688483971.post-8785634799905869592009-07-20T05:17:47.913+12:002009-07-20T05:17:47.913+12:00You are incredibly brave, and calling yourself ...You are incredibly brave, and calling yourself 'hopeful' is very apt. There is hope. <br /><br />I know, because I'm coming at this from the other side. I am a recovering alcoholic, married to a pastor. There are many things I know now, that six months ago I would not have believed. I know that I was the only one who could decide that I had a problem, and I was the only one who could decide to stop. I know that it was only when I got to the end of my tether that I realised that God had been there all the time, waiting for me to stop trying to cope with my problems in my own strength (inevitably this meant turning to drink) I know that I cannot do this without the help of friends.<br /><br />You obviously love your husband very much. If he is ever to recover, he too has to decide these things for himself. Separating with him may turn out to be the thing that does this for him. And if he never does recover, you and your son need to be able to live with hope without him. As for you not realising that he was an alcoholic for three years, I plucked up the courage to confess to my husband two weeks ago, and he had never suspected that I had been drinking heavily for five years. If there's one thing we alcoholics excel at, it's deceit. He is struggling to trust me, but I see this as a good thing: I will never be 'cured'; I can never be trusted. But only in this area. We have agreed to ringfence the alcoholism, and to keep trusting each other in other areas. <br /><br />I don't know if this will help you. You may not want to hear from an alcoholic. Nobody would blame you for that. But I will pray for you, and for your husband. Keep looking to God for strength. Keep listening to your elders. they make a lot of sense.Erica Orchardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13118997052788066370noreply@blogger.com